Before you read the rest of my reply, I would like you to read three brief articles. The first is a brief statement by the American College of Pediatricians on the issue of transgenderism, officially called Gender Dysphoria.
This second article is by Paul McHugh, formerly psychiatric chief at the Johns Hopkins Hospital and a professor of psychiatry at the John Hopkins Medical School. He is not a Christian, that I know of, but has extensive experience dealing with this field.
Thank you for reading these.
With the above articles in mind, I hope you noted that these sexual issues are not either/or. Each person involved in them does so on the basis of choice or because of psychological factors. They are changeable. The belief that a female spirit was accidentally placed in a male body, or vice-versa, has no support in Scripture and no empirical evidence outside of Scripture. We are born male or female, determined by our biology, and discomfort with that role is produced in us by the circumstances through which we live and the culture around us. It does not arise from our biology. As such, it should be treated like any other struggle we go through or any other psychological or behavioral disorder. For example, those struggling with kleptomania are not best treated by allowing them to steal as they wish. If we do so the true owners of the items stolen become the victims. Those struggling with rage are not best treated by allowing them to express their rage whenever they please. If we do so those who suffer the psychological distress at their rage or those abused by them become the victims. Those struggling with irrational fears are not best treated by supporting and agreeing with those fears. Those falsely accused by them then also become victims of these irrational fears (think Salem Witch Trials). Racism is not best treated by allowing racists to freely express their hatred. If we do, then the object of their racism become victims of that hatred and suffer because of it. In an identical way, those struggling with the psychological disorder of Gender Dysphoria, by supporting their right to use the bathroom of their choice, make every other person in that restroom a victim of their psychological struggle. It would be no different, logically, than if we allowed those with kleptomania to steal whenever they wished, and then forced the shopkeepers to accept it.
This also allows greater opportunity for sexual offenders to enter into female bathrooms with no method of stopping them. This is a very real threat, as I pointed out to you with this article to which I linked (http://thefederalist.com/2015/11/23/a-rape-survivor-speaks-out-about-transgender-bathrooms/).
As far as being a Christian is concerned, loving a person never implies loving their behavior. The Scriptures are adamant that we love one another, and even love our enemies. If that implied that we also love their behavior then there would never be one word condemning anyone’s sin. But the Scriptures are full of condemnation of behavior. Part of loving someone is helping them by warning them of self-destructive behavior and assisting them in overcoming and changing that behavior. Alcoholism, eating disorders, and substance abuse are additional examples of destructive behaviors.
Is it loving to encourage anyone in a behavior clinically shown to be highly destructive? Sweden has been very supportive of those in the LGBT crowd for a very long time. Note this Swedish study (http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0016885). Let me quote the results of the study:
The overall mortality for sex-reassigned persons was higher during follow-up (aHR 2.8; 95% CI 1.8–4.3) than for controls of the same birth sex, particularly death from suicide (aHR 19.1; 95% CI 5.8–62.9). Sex-reassigned persons also had an increased risk for suicide attempts (aHR 4.9; 95% CI 2.9–8.5) and psychiatric inpatient care (aHR 2.8; 95% CI 2.0–3.9). Comparisons with controls matched on reassigned sex yielded similar results. Female-to-males, but not male-to-females, had a higher risk for criminal convictions than their respective birth sex controls.
Recall what the American College of Pediatricians stated: “Rates of suicide are twenty times greater among adults who use cross-sex hormones and undergo sex reassignment surgery, even in Sweden which is among the most LGBQT – affirming countries.” That is a suicide rate of 2000% compared to the non-LGBT population. Do you really want to affirm behavior with that consequence? Do you want to support behavior that has a much higher rate of cancer and other health risks? Doesn’t our society soundly condemn cigarette smoking because it leads to cancer? Why does our society not condemn this behavior when treatment also leads to a higher cancer risk?
May I remind you that, unless you make it clear to others that all people are under God’s condemnation, you can never show them their need for salvation. That means that you have to reveal to them that they are condemned by God for their sinful behavior and that this sinful behavior has horrible physical and spiritual consequences. I ask you to read carefully Ephesians 5:1-12. Notice what we are commanded in verse 11. We are to expose deeds of darkness, not support them. Denying one’s biological sex is a denial of God’s good creation. To be male or female is not a biological mistake. Transgenderism is a declaration that one’s created identity is a mistake. That in itself is sin. God made us male or female and that maleness or femaleness is determined by whether one has two X chromosomes or an X and a Y chromosome. It is not determined any other way. To deny this is to deny the most fundamental fact about our humanity. We do not love anyone by denying their created identity as a male or female, determined by their biology. To do so is to create and support a false reality and to deny that what God designed is good.
Don’t, please don’t, buy into the sinful behavior of this culture. You only dilute your own witness and make the claim that God loves evil, which is to call God a liar.
Go back to the Scriptures. Let them determine truth for you, not the culture.
As a Pastor and as your Christian brother, I urge you to allow the Holy Spirit to teach you through His Word and to forsake the evil claims of our culture.